Lets talk about pictures. Who doesn’t love pictures? I guess there are some of you out there that don’t enjoy them but if you know me, you know that is not the case here. How about those dreaded selfies? Such and controversial topic these days. There are articles all over the place talking about how terrible selfies are and how selfie-centered people are. Don’t get me wrong, I do think there are some extremes, but for me, most of the time, if I don’t make it a selfie, I don’t make it in the moment! But, if I take and post a selfie I do fear the judgement that may come with it.
I can’t tell you how many times I think “I wish someone was capturing this moment for me” I don’t love pictures of myself and the reason I want to be in the photo’s has nothing to do with that. I just want to be in the memories and I want to remember me now- just as it is. The tired momma who is doing all the things for her family. I want to remember the way I looked at my kids and the way they looked at me. I want to remember that crazy messy hair and t-shirt I wore for 3 days straight. I want to remember the tears, the smiles, the fights, the laughter. I want to remember the creativity and the mess that came with it. Or how about how much time I spend holding kids- I want to remember it all! Each stage of life seems to pass by so quickly and I just want to remember them and I am not sure I will fully remember all of it without the photos to remind me.
Tonight, I sat on my bed playing with Vera Jane. I was kissing her sweet chubby cheeks and watching her face light up with joy. Harvey came running in and climbed up on my bed with us. He was telling me all kinds of things and loving on the baby too. I couldn’t help but want to capture the memory. I handed my phone to Joel and asked him to snap a few photos while we played some more. I struggle with this and have missed so many opportunities to capture moments because I don’t want to ask someone else to do it. I want the pictures done the way I would do it- unprompted and completely natural. I don’t want to ask- but not asking means I miss the chance! The picture isn’t posed and I got my memory, all I had to do was ask!
Mom to mom, if you aren’t getting in pictures, start today! If you don’t have someone who naturally sees moments and takes photos of them, start asking! Asking someone to take pictures of the moments doesn’t make them any less real or take anything away from it, it fact, asking just allows you to preserve that real moment! (Preaching to myself here!) Grab your phone, hand it to someone, don’t worry if it’s perfect, and just take the picture! I know you won’t regret it!